Children develop by naturally pushing their boundaries further and discovering new things. Along the way, they watch how you handle things as a parent. They basically follow in your footsteps. You help your child by giving them the space to follow their own path (Tao) and to see the consequences of the steps they take. Through play, your child can discover that there are many paths to choose from and that each leads to different outcomes. This way, your child can learn from experience what fits best with their own developmental path (Tao). He will gradually experience that daring to choose your own path goes hand in hand with inner balance (Yin & Yang). Along the way, he learns to understand that the more he can find balance within himself, the less force (Wu wei) he experiences in the outside world. Ecosystemic Taoism focuses on forming a genuine relationship with yourself, others, and your natural environment. It teaches you to stay connected to yourself, so you can also maintain balance (Yin & Yang) in relation to others and your natural environment.
Helping your child in this light is done without pressure and therefore without punishment or rewards. Because that implicitly gives your child the signal that developing is wrong. While your child’s intention is simply that he wants to grow, but he has not experienced most things before, so he will also find out that certain paths are not his way (Tao) because it makes him waver. But also, that some paths just need a bit more experience and actually give the balance (Yin & Yang) that motivates him to keep going. This way, he develops a healthy self-image, which gives him the balance to venture out into the wide world.
- In the fall of 2026, Trias Vita will start an (online) course on how to support a child’s development without punishing or rewarding him. You can find more info about this here;
- Trias Vita also coaches (exceptionally) gifted children and youngsters from an ecosystemic Taoist perspective to develop a healthy self-image. You can find more info about this here;
- With ‘Natural Oasis’, children aged 3 to 5 discover through play who they are in relation to themselves and others. New groups start at the end of August 2026.
Are you interested in the (online) course, coaching, or ‘Natural Oasis’? Email Trias Vita.
Trias Vita is a centre for lifelong development that supports children and young people to develop in connection with themselves, others, and the natural environment from an ecosystemic Taoist life perspective: finding your path (Tao) in balance (Yin & Yang) and without force (Wu wei).
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Vicki Van Lommel, founder Trias Vita